Positivity Please

4 Fri, 2011 § 11 Comments

One of the first things out of my mouth when I talked to Dave yesterday afternoon was venting over frustrations at work.  The first thing out of my mouth should have been I do not have to work the weekend of our anniversary after all!

I am feeling a bit negative lately.

I like work fine, but it is not what I want to do.  There is no need to let it get to me though when I am not even going to invest in it long-term.

I would like to get to a place where I do not judge situations as good or bad — they just are.

“There are no problems — only situations.”

~Avi in Revolver

[Desert Greenhouse, BioPark Botanical Garden ~ Albuquerque, NM]

Currently running through my head non-stop:

upcoming vet bill for Eis [don’t worry, just vaccinations]…enrollment fee [I was accepted into NAU]…personal training cert. fee…piano moving cost…1st year wedding anniversary…surprise…

I am fighting off an anxiety meltdown.

I just need to sit, breathe, write it all down, plan & prioritize.

I do not mean to be negative.  I am trying to be positive, see things for what they are &…be like this cactus. [ 😀 ?? ]

The cactus does not whine, make excuses, stress or cling to illusions.  It accepts the moment, uses whatever resources it is given, embraces the freedom of its sparse surroundings & blossoms into what it is meant to be.


How do you fight off negativity & stay the happy, uplifting people you are?! 🙂

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§ 11 Responses to Positivity Please

  • Dave says:

    I remember the wise words of a Tibetan monk:

    “Remember the example of an old cow:
    She is content to sleep in a barn.
    In life you have to eat, sleep, and shit
    – that is unavoidable.
    Do what you HAVE to do and keep yourself to yourself.”

    While struggles and prioritization are unavoidable, we can take the “journey of a thousand miles” approach and just take care of the easiest tasks first. Before you know it, all you have left is 1 or 2 easy tasks. Not that my advice really helps your financial anxiety, but as Van Wilder pointed out, “worrying is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but doesn’t get you anywhere.” 🙂
    A little triage goes a long way.
    Love you!

  • Dave says:

    Oh, and I REALLY like the picture!

    • Allie says:

      “REALLY”, eh? Thank you.
      And thank you for your support & wise words — & the wise words of guru Wilder — you always make me feel better & remind me what matters most…
      Bodhi matters; flowers don’t. 😉 I’m a jerk.

    • Allie says:

      How about some “constructive” feedback? 😉

  • Natalie says:

    Gosh, I think I just try to wait it out and realize that “this too shall pass”. I also distract myself by making some plans/changes in my current situation in order to see if that helps. I really try not to get bogged down with the negativity…in one moment it can lift. Seriously 🙂

  • Natalie says:

    Chin up, doll!

  • kristastes says:

    Awww I feel the same way about my job. It’s a job but not something I will be doing in 5 years. I still stress out about things at work – yesterday must have been a weird day for both of us because I drove home in tears ha. I usually have a good quick cry sesh and then go for a walk and feel much better!

  • Ashley says:

    Take this list and turn it around to remember what is important:

    “upcoming vet bill for Eis [don’t worry, just vaccinations]…enrollment fee [I was accepted into NAU]…personal training cert. fee…piano moving cost…1st year wedding anniversary…surprise…”

    Something like this….
    1. Eis: my amazing dog who I love and enjoy spending time with, who cuddles up with me and makes me feel better.
    2. Accepted into NAU…yes!! I’m on the path to ditching my job I’m unhappy with and moving towards a goal of a career I am excited about!
    3. Personal training–this will be a great way to share my love for exercise and motivate me to stay active.
    4. Piano: I enjoy the piano and am thankful for the music is has brought into my life.
    5. Wedding anniversary–what a fun time to reflect upon–getting married out in our favorite place to the man of my dreams…and freezing our asses off!!
    6. Surprises…this should not be stressful but FUN! If it is stressful, create a different surprise.

    It’s good to recognize when we are on the verge of a breakdown and yes, sometimes a good cry is all I need.

    As beautiful and resourceful as the cactus can be, it can easily prick the shit out of you!

    Keep your head up, eat some chocolate, drink some wine and know that I love you.

    • Allie Finch says:

      Your comments make me smile. You are completely spot on — that is why all of these items are top on my agenda. I’m excited & happy about all of them — that is why I want them to happen RIGHT NOW. Alas, step by step…& one paycheck at a time unfortunately. 😛

  • Julia says:

    Your post reminded me to look for the positives in the situations i am dealing with right now. I hope you feel better about all these things tomorrow. And congrats on getting into NAU!

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